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Mon Jan 21 2019 |
I thought I could get away with ignoring Marie Kondo’s Tidying Up
show on Netflix, but so many of you are asking my opinion, I had to post something.
Yes, I watched some of her show, and yes, I offer her book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing.
in the mindfulness bookstore
on my website
. I believe that anyone who is helping us clean up and clear out is doing a service. And, it’s hard to find fault with Marie Kondo’s nonstop cheerfulness.
On her new show, Kondo helps people decide what to keep (things that “spark joy”) and what to toss (things that don’t spark anything). I’m good with that.
But, one of the controversies surrounding the show is her idea that you should keep only 30 books.
I’ve been a Feng Shui practitioner for 20 years, and whenever I start talking about downsizing a book collection I get dirty looks and that arms-folded-across-the-chest body language that tells me to back off. I know it's hard to get rid of books. When I made a cross-country move 15 years ago, I donated an oversized shopping cart’s worth of them to the local library, and it felt like I was saying goodbye to old friends. Most of us have limited storage space in the best of situations and we need it for things in addition to books.
Sorry Marie, as often as I advise people to cull their book collection, I would never tell anyone to limit their books to any specific number. The books we choose to display are the ultimate reflection of who we are, where we’ve been, and where we are going.
That means you have my Feng Shui permission to display books - as long as you can answer yes
to all of these questions:
1. Do the books still have meaning for you?
2. Will you read them again?
That includes that dog-eared, stained, yellowed copy of The Catcher in the Rye.
3. Will you display them artfully?
That means interspersing your books with objects that have equally-important meaning. No haphazard, tossed-in-a pile arrangements allowed.
4. Do you promise to remove one book every time you add one new book?
(Yes, sometimes the Feng Shui Maven’s advice can be tough love.)
5. Do you promise to dust them – regularly?
Hopefully, this will let you keep your special books, and at the same time keep Marie Kondo (and me) satisfied. Always remember my Feng Shui mantra: Nothing new flows into your life until you make room for it.
Need help in deciding which books get to stay, and which must go?
Here are four ideas from Unclutterer.com
1. Evacuate your home.
Pretend you’ve been ordered to evacuate. You can take only the books that fit into three small moving boxes, and you only have 30 minutes to choose. When you're done, all the books that are not in the boxes are considered negotiable.
2. Practice worst-case scenario.
What's the worst possible thing that could happen if you got rid of a specific book? Would you lose important information you couldn't find elsewhere? Would you lose a part of your family heritage? If so, the book is a keeper. Everything else that you could find in a library or on the Internet is negotiable. If the book is needed for an active project, it's a keeper for now. Once the project is complete, the book becomes eligible for elimination.
3. Play book custodian.
Are you looking after the books as if you were a librarian? Are you able to keep up with repairs any books might need? Are your books organized in a way that you can find exactly what you need when you need it?
4. Make it a game.
Have a friend pull a book off the shelf and tell you one significant detail, like the title or author. You have to tell your friend all about the book. For fiction, you have to provide a brief plot summary. For non-fiction, you must give facts from the book. If you can't provide details, it’s time to let go of the book. If you haven't read it yet, your friend puts it in a "to read" pile and comes back in a month. If you haven't read the book by then, out it goes.
Wed Dec 26 2018 |
The Chinese Year of the Brown Earth Pig starts on February 5, 2019.
Each year, when I report on the predictions from Asian Feng Shui masters about the coming lunar year, I make the same disclaimer: I'm just the reporter here, not the predictor.
The predictions included here are for fun only, no other claim is made. Personally, I believe that you have control over your actions and create the kind of year you will experience.
That being said, it looks like this year will be good for almost every animal of the Chinese zodiac. The masters are using words like fortune and luck. It's predicted to be a great year to make money and to invest. The year will be full of joy, friendship, and love for all the zodiac signs. In China, the pig is thought to behave itself, with no plan to harm others. So 2019 will be a good year. The pig is an ethical and idealistic sign, and represents wealth and generosity. For 2019, the lucky colors are red and white.
In China, the traditional gifts to wish prosperity and luck in the New Year include red envelopes filled with money, oranges (signifying riches or wealth), tangerines (established symbols of luck), plum blossoms (symbolizing hope and courage), narcissus flowers (symbolizing the New Year), or paintings, stamps, and illustrations with these flowers.
Here is what the Asian masters are predicting for each sign of the zodiac in 2019:
2019 will be a year of new opportunities for the rat. You might be a little slow and not hyperactive, but that’s perfectly acceptable as your mind will be pretty active. This is the year for the rat to make or break relationships. If you like someone, go tell him or her. Now is not the time to keep quiet. Birth years: 1936, 1948, 1960, 1972, 1984, 1996, 2008.
The Ox will have an excellent time in 2019. It’s the year to relax and have fun. You’ll have stability in finances and career. Take good care of your food and your health in 2019. You’ll need to make an effort to strengthen your relationships. New projects at work will keep you busy, and money will pour in like never before. This is a good year to go on a vacation with your partner, or to plan a pregnancy. Birth years: Year: 1937, 1949, 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997, 2009.
You will have a wonderful time in 2019, feeling invincible and ready to conquer the world. Everything you touch will turn into gold. You just need to focus and put your mind to it. You’ll also be lucky in relationships. Career and jobs will be hectic, but manageable. Keep an eye on your purse strings and don’t overspend. Birth years: 1938, 1950, 1962, 1974, 1986, 1998, 2010.
This will be a year of challenges for the rabbit, but with your determination and willpower, you’ll overcome obstacles. Love and romance will be simple and down-to-earth, so good communication will be needed to take relationships to the next level. The success of your career lies in the details of the minor stuff at work. Birth years: 1939, 1951, 1963, 1975, 1987, 1999, 2011.
It will will be a peaceful year for the dragon, but full of energy and enthusiasm. Marriages will be filled with happiness, and single dragons will move forward from first dates to more stable relationships. This is a year of creative work in your job or business. Finances will improve unexpectedly, but so will expenses. Try to relax and practice meditation. Birth years: 1928, 1940, 1952, 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000, 2012.
It looks like a calm and meditative year for the snake, but you could see some turmoil in your relationships. If you do end up with a broken heart, pick yourself up and forge ahead, and learn from these experiences. Exercise and try to relax. You’ll move at the pace you dictate this year. Birth Years: 1929,1941, 1953, 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001.
Confidence is the word for the year, and you’ll try out new things. Participate in sports to help your overall health. Remember to spend time with your spouse/partner, family, and friends so your relationships can be more compatible. Teamwork and networking will play an important role in your professional life. Birth Years: 1930, 1942, 1954, 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002.
It will be an interactive and communicative year for the sheep in 2019. Improve your health by reducing your stress. You might fall in love this year, but be prepared for fast-paced dating and frequent breakups. Married couples will be more stable this year. You job will require most of your attention, but you’ll be rewarded by promotions and salary hikes. Birth Years: 1931, 1943, 1955, 1967, 1979, 1991.
This is a year of happiness for the monkey. You’ll have the freedom to do what you want without any worries or tension, but you need to push yourself to achieve your goals. There might be few conflicts and arguments in relationships, but hold on and you will survive. Showcase your abilities at work. Birth Years: 1932, 1944, 1956, 1968, 1980, 1992, 2004.
This is the year for the rooster to continue what you are already doing, rather than begin new business projects or relationships. If you do start something new, it will be short lived. Work on existing professional and personal commitments. Your spending power will be better than previous years. You need to analyze and organize your life this year. Birth Years: 1933, 1945, 1957, 1969, 1981, 1993, 2005.
When it comes to love and career, it will be a dynamic year for the dog. You might even pick up a new hobby. Your instincts will help you balance all aspects of your life. Love and passion will be visible in all relationships. Flings will be a common occurrence for the single dog. Your work will be noticed by your seniors. Take better control of your finances. Birth Years: 1934, 1946, 1958, 1970, 1982, 1994, 2006.
Last but not least, this will be a balancing year for the pig. This is the time when you need to correct your past mistakes and prepare for the future. Take care of your health with simple home remedies. Learn to communicate with your spouse/partner for better compatibility. When it comes to career, learning new skills will be extremely important in 2019. Birth Years: 1935, 1947, 1959, 1971, 1983, 1995, 2007
Tue Feb 27 2018 |
In his new book, College Success Stories That Inspire: Lessons from Inside and Outside the Classroom
, author Steven Roy Goodman shares college-days anecdotes from many professionals - including me. My story is in the chapter called "It Took a Little Courage," and it describes an experience during my college internship taught me the value of unorthodox decisions.
In the summer of my junior year as a journalism major at the University of Maryland, College Park, I won a coveted spot in the Magazine Publishers Association college intern program. There were thirty of us from across the country, each assigned to magazines in New York City. The participating publications included Newsweek, Time
, and what for me would have been the prize assignment, (The New Yorker
. What did I get? Woman's Day Magazine
. It was 1970 and I couldn't believe I had to work for a "housewife" magazine that featured articles like making your child's Halloween mask from a plastic bleach container. (Yes, that was not only an actual article, but one that I wrote that summer as well.)
The first day I walked into their editorial offices, I was surprised to find that I had entered a hotbed of feminism. The staff was young and hip, rather than the stuffy group I had expected to find. I ended up loving every minute of the five weeks I worked there.
One of the typical intern jobs I had was answering the phone for my editor. I especially remember a phone conversation with Her Serene Highness Princess Grace of Monaco to set up an interview with my editor. "Hello, this is Grace Kelly," she said in her regal voice when I answered what I thought would be a typical phone call.
And the surprises kept coming.
Toward the end of my internship, Editor Geraldine Rhoads took me to a publishers' luncheon in a private club on Madison Avenue. When we checked in, the receptionist said that we had to enter the dining room through the kitchen because this was an all-male club.
"I will not go through the kitchen," Geraldine replied. She grabbed my hand and, with head held high, she marched us through the library into the dining room. A few men looked up and scowled, but most didn't even notice.
We sat down at our table, and my heart was pounding. "Did we just do that?" my former naive self asked.
"We just did that!" my new, more self-assured self replied.
My world was forever changed as I realized I didn't have to follow what was expected of me and that I could make decisions that were outside the box, no matter how bold.
Fast-forward many years, past the expected writing and public affairs jobs to my current "odd job" as a Feng Shui practitioner. I was always happier editing than writing so it all makes perfect sense that I'm now editing
people's surroundings to help them live better lives. While it may be an unusual career choice, it's surely one that Geraldine influenced, and I'm happy being the "odd" woman out in a cutting-edge field.
Sat Jan 27 2018 |
This week, I'm posting excerpts from my interview with Carole Jakucs, BSN, RN, PHN, for NURSE.com
. While she was writing specifically for the nursing profession, these tips apply equally to all high-stress professions and situations. The practice of Feng Shui, Carole writes, can take your self-care plan to a new level. She included a link to my "Elemental Personality Quiz" to help nurses and others identify the Feng Shui Element that influences their personality.
Here's what Carole Jakucs wrote:
Nursing is a high-stress career that requires its professionals to maintain their overall health in order to prevent exhaustion and compassion fatigue. Adopting an exercise regimen and healthy eating habits are well-known to benefit both body and mind, but there are other practices out there that can add more depth to a self-care plan - including meditation and Feng Shui.
Carol Olmstead, FSIA (a certification from the Feng Shui Institute of America) and Feng Shui master practitioner, adds "Nurses also can also practice Feng Shui on the job by clearing clutter at workstations and in patient rooms." Also, opening blinds and curtains to let the daylight in whenever possible creates a better environment by relying less on fluorescent lighting, which is harsh on the eyes," she says.
If having fresh flowers or plants at work isn't possible, silk flowers work since silk is part of nature, she added.
Olmstead said if you only have time to do one thing to get started with Feng Shui, begin by clearing clutter. "Clutter blocks the flow of Chi," Olmstead said. "Chi is energy. Anything that holds back the flow of Chi is a negative in your environment. Clutter represents delayed decisions and the inability to move forward."
When removing clutter, think of the 3 Rs
- remove, repair or replace. Also, if you don't like it, love it or need it, why hold onto it, she asks her clients.
Olmstead agrees that the goal of Feng Shui is to create a balanced, harmonious environment indoors that makes you feel like you're connected to nature, and she shares Feng Shui basics on her website Feng Shui For Real Life
"Think of how we feel when we're outdoors with the breeze blowing, sitting near a body of water and feeling the warmth of the sun," she said. "We're trying to create these same feelings when we're indoors."
Olmstead, who offers tips sheets on her website on ways to start practicing Feng Shui at home and at work, says knowing which Feng Shui Element
they are can help nurses create a more relaxed environment for themselves.
Wed Jan 10 2018 |
The Year of the Earth Dog
in Chinese astrology begins on February 16 with the start of Chinese New Year. I’ve been reading predictions from Asian Feng Shui practitioners, and before I summarize what I’ve seen, I’ll start with the disclaimer I use every year: The predictions included here are for fun only, no other claim is made.
Personally, I believe that you have control over your actions and create the kind of year you will experience. I’m just the messenger here, so please, don’t shoot!
OK, with that in mind, here we go…
This will be a year of wait and see, says one Asian forecaster, rather than a time to be aggressive. It’s a year for more understanding, giving, and supporting. For 2018, the lucky Feng Shui Elements are Earth, Metal, and Water. In addition to the Dog, lucky animal signs are the Horse, Rabbit, and Tiger.
The Year of the Earth Dog can bring prosperity to those who are proactive, work hard, communicate well, and are generous to others. Specifically, 2018 can be full of good luck in businesses and industries that involve “earth,” such as real estate and construction, plus technology related to cars, shipping, courier services, and transportation. These Earth Element-related industries will be doing especially good in October, and real estate prices will rise higher. Water Element-related industries that involve moving around, like logistics and e-commerce, will do well in 2018, and travel and tourism will flourish. Other industries expected to do well include banking, finance, insurance, and professions dealing with public speaking, like lawyers, speakers, and trainers. Industries related to the Fire Element will be more challenged, especially oil and gas.
Below is a summary of astrologers’ predictions for each sign in the coming new year:
(1934, 1946, 1958, 1970, 1982, 1994, 2006): Good luck and opportunities will come the Dog’s way, but avoid conflict because you might just find yourself in the middle of it all. Be careful who you trust, and don’t trust too easily.
(1935, 1947, 1959, 1971, 1983, 1995, 2007): Expect better luck and opportunities coming your way, but don't be too happy-go-lucky. Learn more about what you’re getting into before leaping.
(1936, 1948, 1960, 1972, 1984, 1996, 2008): There will be mixed luck for the Rat. Sometimes you will feel like there’s a hole in your pocket due to unexpected expenses. Be careful when traveling and guard your health.
(1937, 1949, 1961, 1973, 1985, 1997, 2009): There will be mixed luck for the Ox. There will be a lot of opportunities and you will be surrounded by helpful people. Listen to them, and keep your temper in check.
(1938, 1950, 1962, 1974, 1986, 1998, 2010): Tigers need to be careful of who you surround yourself with, since you are prone to heated arguments. Be careful of business dealings.
(1939, 1951, 1963, 1975, 1987, 1999, 2011): Expect some good luck, and lots of new friends. But be wary of betrayals.
(1928, 1940, 1952, 1964, 1976, 1988, 2000, 2012): The year will be more challenging for you, but if you know how to convert these challenges into positive energy, a good amount of luck will come your way. Keep your temper in check.
(1929,1941, 1953, 1965, 1977, 1989, 2001): You are the luckiest in terms of money, business luck, and opportunities in investments. But be careful, you don’t have to “bite” on everything that comes your way.
(1930, 1942, 1954, 1966, 1978, 1990, 2002): Horses will be lucky in terms of relationships. These will be not only romantic, but also related to networking and connections.
(1931, 1943, 1955, 1967, 1979, 1991): Sheep can expect a lot of good luck in 2018. Believe in what you want, follow your gut, and go for it.
(1932, 1944, 1956, 1968, 1980, 1992, 2004): It’s a good year for the Monkey. Your power will increase, and signs of promotions and benefits are in your future.
(1933, 1945, 1957, 1969, 1981, 1993, 2005): Be careful of your health. Your drive and motivation will weaken a little, so don’t push yourself too hard.
Mon Jan 01 2018 |
I look forward to the announcement of the Pantone Color of the Year
, and then I’m often disappointed because it doesn’t meet what I need for the coming year in Feng Shui terms.
Take Pantone’s decision in 2016 to choose not one, but two wimpy colors, Rose Quartz and Serenity. They looked like baby blanket colors to me, and not at all what we needed to guide us through that year. Last year’s “Greenery” wasn’t much better, because it was a bit “limey,” when what we needed was a growth-inducing Forest or prosperous Emerald. Instead, we got a color that resembled a fruit. Fruits do work for some years, and in fact the choice of Tangerine Tango was so on-target for 2012 that I bought the Pantone mug in that color.
For 2018, the color is Ultra Violet
, which is a Feng Shui Fire Element
deep purple, mixed with a Metal Element pastel. I would have preferred a deeper, bluer purple tipped toward the Water Element to represent flow, movement, and ease. In Feng Shui, shades of the color purple represent spirituality, mindfulness, things mystical, and royalty. Well, 2018 will certainly be the year of the British royals.
According to the Pantone Color Institute’s Executive Director, Leatrice Eiseman, Ultra Violet is “a dramatically provocative and thoughtful purple shade that communicates originality, ingenuity, and visionary thinking that points us toward the future.”
Adds Laurie Pressman, Pantone’s Vice President, “It’s truly a reflection of what’s needed in our world today,” Her comments suggest that Pantone is not just observing and predicting, it’s going proactive. Integrity, originality, and visionary are words I like for 2018, but I think we’ll do better if we skip things that are “provocative” this year.
How did Pantone, the self-proclaimed “color authorities,” come up with this choice? It seems they sent 10 people around the globe doing my dream job - searching for color in food, cars, cosmetics, clothes, and housewares. They got back together, compared their findings, did an analysis, and declared the color of 2018 to be Ultra Violet.
Leatrice says purple was the favorite color of the architect Frank Lloyd Wright, who used to wear a purple cape when he was trying to be creative. And since she’s the official color maven, she should know. “It’s also the most complex of all colors,” she says.
Then, there’s also the associate of Ultra Violet and shades of purple with celebrities, especially Prince. And that might be an even better observation of what we need in 2018:
Honey, I know, I know
I know times are changing
It's time we all reach out
For something new, that means you too
You say you want a leader
But you can't seem to make up your mind
I think you better close it
And let me guide you to the purple rain
Tue Oct 17 2017 |
What's stressing you today? Natural disaster, terrorism, violence, cyber hacks, politics? It feels like we find something new to worry about daily, on top of our own personal struggles. People report feeling angry and powerless. I wish I could give you a Feng Shui solution to all the world's problems. What I can do instead is share these Feng Shui tips for making your home feel harmonious, so it can be your oasis of calm in a crazy world.
To keep your interior environment as stress-free as possible, start by removing clutter. A cluttered environment is a chaotic one. And that chaos keeps you from being able to renew, restore, slow down, and let go when you arrive home because you're too busy fighting with all that "stuff" around you. An uncluttered environment helps chi flow smoothly, so you'll feel less anxious, less pressured, and generally in a better mood. Here's my Feng Shui "permission slip": It's OK to get rid of everything you don't like, don't need, and don't use anymore no matter how much you paid for it. Keep and display only what you love.
Refresh the colors.
When you're already full of fire from the conflict around you in a troubled world, coming home to hot, Fire Element colors like red may keep you from relaxing. Try removing some of the red and hot orange accessories and instead surround yourself with the color blue for relaxation and green for renewal. It's also helpful to have a warm, neutral color on the walls instead of cold, stark white. Check to assure your colors and patterns aren't in conflict with each other. If a pattern is jarring to your eye, it's going to make you feel stressed and cranky without realizing what's causing the problem. Try switching to solids in your accessories instead of stripes, plaids, or huge bold patterns.
Make sure the lighting in your home is not too harsh. Modern lighting has come a long way since those CFL corkscrews first replaced incandescent bulbs, but now you have too many choices. Look for full spectrum lighting that mimics natural daylight, and choose bulbs with warmer tones. Light is considered to be upbeat yang
energy, so in troubled times you want to bring in all the light you can to balance dark yin
energy from the violence and chaos. Also bring in all the natural sunlight you can by cleaning your windows and opening the window treatments.
Connect to nature.
Treat yourself to fresh flowers and healthy living plants with rounded, bushy leaves. Avoid plants with thorns or spikes, since they will add to the sharpness you already feel outside of your home. Add the scent of lavender to your environment for its calming effect, especially in your bedroom to help you sleep. Precious stones can be used to deflect bad energy and to attract and boost good luck. Display amethyst stones to promote calmness and reduce anger and irritability and encourage tranquility.
Change the view.
If there's anything in your home that "drives you nuts," it's raising your anxiety level even when you're not at home because it continues to occupy your mind. This includes projects that never get finished, wall cracks that need repairing, stained furniture that needs some TLC, and everything else you've been postponing. Here's where I suggest you follow my Rule of 3Rs
: Remove, Repair, or Replace these items right now. Also, if you have an unattractive view from any one of your windows, hang window treatments to block it to help you change your point of view, literally and figuratively.
Surround yourself with people.
The constant bombardment of bad news can make you feel alone in a disconnected world. Counter this feeling by displaying images of your family, friends, and pets. You can also surround yourself at home and at work with images of your favorite places, especially photos of your visits there with special people. Play soothing music or nature sounds in the background so you can actually have a conversation with your friends and family, and consider a white noise machine to block out outside distractions.