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Welcome to the Feng Shui For Real Life Ezine, a monthly e-magazine with tips, success stories, and clutter-clearing advice to help you make simple Feng Shui changes to attract wealth, harmony, love, and much more.

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Carol M. Olmstead
Feng Shui Master Practitioner

Feng Shui Tip of the Month – Arrange Your Bedroom For Love
It's hard to avoid thinking about love and romance in February, the month when we're surrounded by all of those ads for Valentine's Day gifts. Whether you're looking to attract a new love or want to rev up the love you already have, here are a dozen of my favorite Feng Shui bedroom tips for love.
  1. A bedroom should be for rest and romance only, so remove things that keep you from focusing on love, especially clutter, dirty clothes, and the cat's litter box.
  2. Replace any bedroom furniture that is broken, stained, torn, or that has any unpleasant associations with past relationships.
  3. Get rid of the bed and mattress from a previous relationship because when you sleep on them you sleep with the negative energy from your former lover.
  4. Remove photographs of your children, parents, and pets from your bedroom so they won't be "watching" you in bed; instead, display a current photo of you with your spouse/partner.
  5. Place a pair of night tables in your bedroom; for singles the second table invites a partner into your bedroom, for couples it encourages equality in your relationship.
  6. Remove artwork from your bedroom if it shows a single person or a solitary or lonely scene; replace it with images that are paired, coupled, or romantic to make you more receptive to a relationship.
  7. Treat yourself to new, luxurious bedding to freshen your relationship and encourage your spouse/partner to linger in bed with you.
  8. Remove items that remind you of a past lover, including your ex's photo, old sweater, or gifts that could remind you of love that went bad.
  9. Add red accessories to your bedroom in shades of scarlet, crimson, and burgundy to activate the Fire Element and ignite your love life.
  10. Remove all work-related items from your bedroom, especially your computer and cell phone, so you can focus on romance instead of your career.
  11. If you have a ceiling fan directly above your bed it could be "cooling down" your relationship; if you can't relocate the bed, hang a crystal from the fan or pull chain.
  12. Remove the extra pillows and stuffed animals from your bed because they send the message that you have no room for anyone else to join you.
Planning a romantic Valentine's dinner at home? Click here to read my article "Romantic Dining Ideas."

Clutter Clinic -- Getting Rid of Unwanted Gifts
I had a birthday party to celebrate a big birthday this month, and even though the invitation said "no gifts please," a few people decided they wanted to bring something. I'm very lucky because my friends do know me and I received lovely mementos of this special occasion that I'll cherish. However, sometimes we aren't that lucky and well-meaning family and friends give us gifts that we just don't like. So we keep the gifts and they become "guilt clutter." Gifts don't have only decorative or useful purposes, they also fill an emotional need, but in Feng Shui terms, holding on to this kind of emotional clutter blocks the flow of positive energy. Here are a few don'ts and dos to help you deal with the clutter from unwanted gifts:

Don't feel obligated to keep it. Having things stuffed into your closets, buried in your basement, or weighing down on you in the attic is considered negative Feng Shui.
Do donate it. If your family and friends thought enough to buy something, try visualizing that their love extends toward sending the gift out into the universe for someone else to enjoy.

Don't be afraid the gift-givers will ask about the gift or expect to see it displayed. Most gift-givers will never ask about it.
Do thank the giver. You do have a responsibility to be polite, but you aren't required to display the gift or keep it forever, especially if it contributes to clutter.

Don't hold on to "aftermath junk." Sometimes, a gift that once made you feel good now has negative associations because of things like a friendship that ended, a relationship that broke up, or a job that you left.
Do let the gift go emotionally. Allow yourself to articulate how you actually felt about a gift in the past and how you feel about it now, then give yourself permission to let it go if it no longer makes you feel good.

Don't keep "just because" gifts. Just because a gift is valuable or considered by others to be beautiful, doesn't mean you have to feel the same way about it.
Do realize that someone else could love the gift. No matter how valuable or beautiful the gift, or how much you love the giver, if an item makes you feel sad or bad, it doesn't belong in your home. Give it to someone who doesn't bring the same emotional reaction to the item.

Success Story – Continuing to Make Feng Shui Changes
I love when clients send me their success stories, and I'm especially proud when they understand that once they learn the 5 Power Principles of Feng Shui, they always have the skills to make adjustments to help bring about positive results in any situation. Jackie is a very special client and friend, not only because she's learned how to make Feng Shui work for her and she was the first person to buy my book, but because her success stories always make me smile.

Here's what Jackie wrote:
Some people may not believe that this story of mine is due to Feng Shui, but I really do! My husband had a case coming up with his largest client, but he found out it posed a conflict of interest with another very large client. The second client was angry about the conflict. My husband was distraught. For days, he couldn't sleep and thought that he might have presented his carefully wrought plea incorrectly. So, I decided to do a Feng Shui cure: I put a red triangle (totally made by hand, with his name written on the back) and a candle in the Fame/Future bagua area of the house. [Carol's note: The Fame/Future/Reputation area of the bagua is activated by triangular shapes, symbols of fire, and the color red.] Wouldn't you know, he called me tonight and said that everything worked out - the second client wasn't angry anymore and will let him work with the first client. This is a huge case, one that doesn't come along frequently. I am so relieved! Just thought I would let you know and thank you again for bringing Feng Shui into my life. I think it's all about intention and the consequences that arise from a positive intention.
I would love to share YOUR success story. Email Carol Olmstead or call 1.800.652.9038 to schedule your home or office consultation.

Ask the Feng Shui Maven
Q: I'm fed up with my neighbors. They are noisy, the grass in the front yard is always overgrown or they don't shovel the snow, and they keep a lot of junk in their backyard. Does this bad energy from their house contaminate my house? We can't afford to move right now.
A: You can try to create strong, protective energy around your house with landscaping changes to push away their negative energy. First, use things like attractive fencing, a wall of tall evergreens, a rock garden, tall garden sculptures, or wind-sensitive objects between you and the neighbors. You can also plant shrubs with orange flowers between the houses to encourage positive communication. Next, hang a bagua mirror on the outside wall of the house that faces the neighbor to push the negative energy back to its source. Also, make sure you have window treatments on the side of the house that faces the neighbors to help block their energy, and if there are any doors facing their house make sure they are solid and in good repair. For the noise, consider playing soothing music throughout your house or use a white noise machine. Make these adjustments with the affirmation that these positive changes push away the neighbors' negative energy and subtly encourage them to move.

Q: I'm trying to correct my house for a missing bagua area. On which wall should a mirror or artwork be placed in a u-shaped house where the Career bagua is missing? Should it be on the wall inside the house that is facing this missing bagua? Could you please clarify?
A:The best location for a correction is outside of the house at the location where the walls would come together if the house were a complete rectangle or square. When this is not possible, then a mirror or artwork can be placed on the inside wall that you symbolically want to move out to compete the bagua for your home. If your house is u-shaped then it might be missing more than only the Career Area of the bagua, and you may need to place corrections on several walls. You can find detailed instructions for making these corrections in Chapter 6 of my book, the Feng Shui Quick Guide For Home and Office: Secrets For Attracting Wealth, Harmony, and Love.

Q: I read somewhere that you are supposed to use cinnabar as part of the rice blessing ceremony for a house, so I was so happy to find the article on your website with alternatives. I'm really concerned about the mercury in cinnabar, especially since I have a golden retriever who is a "garbage disposal" and I'm concerned for his safety. Will my ritual still be as effective if I substitute paprika? In my research I read that cinnabar is mined from lava, which has "magical" properties.
A: My Feng Shui approach is Western and practical so I don't use cinnabar for the same concern about mercury. Personally, I feel that the intention of a Feng Shui cure or ceremony is more important than what you choose to implement that cure, so paprika should work fine, and other options are chili powder or red chalk. If you are specific about what you want to clear and use positive affirmations you will be more successful in your efforts and you won't need any "magic."

Do you have Feng Shui questions?
E-mail them to Carol Olmstead, then watch this ezine for the answers.

Feng Shui For Real Life Bookstore
Feng Shui Quick Guide For Home and Office --
Secrets For Attracting Wealth, Harmony, and Love
"Move your stuff, change your life." The Feng Shui Quick Guide For Home and Office includes Feng Shui basics, a monthly guide to clutter clearing, hundreds of Feng Shui tips, and success stories. This is the book that will help you learn how to attract wealth, achieve harmony, improve relationships, advance your career, and clear clutter. Highlights include a month-by-month guide to clearing your clutter and a day-by-day calendar of fast fix Feng Shui tips, and links to download free bonus articles. The perfect gift for everyone on your list - clients, colleagues, family, friends - and a great way for real estate agents to say "thank you" and welcome home buyers to their new home.
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Feng Shui For Real Life In the News
Living Feng Shui Magazine. I was pleased to join my Feng Shui colleagues in contributing to the exciting new Living Feng Shui Magazine. The theme for this issue was flexibility and my article is titled "Opening Up a World of Possibilities with Feng Shui."
Click here to subscribe and read my article in the Winter 2014 issue.

Custom Feng Shui Workshops
Bring one of my workshops to your city. I will create a custom presentation for your business or group to help you make simple changes to attract wealth, harmony, and love. From keynote speeches, to "munch and learn" workshops, to half-day or full-day seminars, my interactive sessions are full of practical advice, tips, and fun. Feng Shui workshops make great fundraisers because they always sell out.

Here's what people are saying about Carol's workshops --
Carol rocked it with her powerful workshop, and how great to have the entire day to soak it as she covered so much. Everyone really LOVED it! Carol's fresh take on Feng Shui is invigorating yet light enough to actually make changes and see immediate results in a space. Her book is additional reinforcement to her live trainings. Carol makes the process fun and yes, anyone can do this! -- Jennifer Ashton, Jennifer Ashton Interiors

I have enjoyed Carol's lively and informative Feng Shui presentations, and I always leave with new insights and tips that I can immediately put to good use in both my home and office. I’m excited to have Carol create a custom workshop for my group.
-- Lainie Grimmer, CPCC, ACC, Creating Clarity Coaching

I received great feedback about the Creating Home Sanctuary "munch and learn" Feng Shui workshop you gave at our design studio, and what an engaging person you are. You did a terrific job! -- Lisa Samuel, ASID, Samuel Design Group

Thank you for a great presentation! Really great stuff.... you are a whiz. -- Val Romero, Founder, Women Make a Difference

I welcome your referrals. If you know of a group or organization that would be interested in scheduling me as a speaker, e-mail Carol Olmstead or call 1.800.652.9038.

Feng Shui Consulting Services
I work with clients nationwide, either on-site in person, or remote by phone, e-mail, and Skype.

On-Site Consulting
I will visit your home, office, or business and help you rearrange your space, shift energy, and transform your life. On a regular basis, I work with clients in the Northeast (DC Metro Area and Maryland Suburbs, Baltimore, Annapolis, Northern Virginia, New York City, and New Jersey) and the Southwest (Santa Fe, Albuquerque, and Denver). Nationwide, I consult on request throughout the US.

During the consultation I will teach you Feng Shui basics, then we'll go through your space and I'll make suggestions for changing the placement of furniture and objects and dealing with color. We will move what we can at that time and I will leave behind a written step-by-step Feng Shui Makeover Plan of recommendations for you to follow, a ToolKit of information to help you make the remaining changes, and a copy of my award-winning book, the Feng Shui Quick Guide For Home and Office: Secrets For Attracting Wealth, Harmony, and Love. All sessions include 30 days of free Feng Shui coaching to help you continue to make changes and move forward.

Here's what clients are saying about Carol's On-Site Feng Shui Consulting:
You stood here in my family room and said, "Now that the renovations are done and no more fixes are needed, there are no more excuses, it's time to write." And that's what I'm doing. Your consultation was a big factor behind this exciting time for me, and you can tell everyone that I said so.

I am love, love, loving my Feng Shui'd home. I have added red to many of the rooms, like you talked about, and what a difference. Thank you again for coming and doing your magic.
J.P., Executive Coach

Appointments fill up fast, especially on weekends Click here for details and to schedule.

Remote Consulting by Phone and Skype
When an on-site consultation isn't possible, I offer Off-Site and Remote Feng Shui Consulting in the US and internationally for homes, offices, and businesses. There are two options, either Whole House Consultation or the new Room Rescue Package for one room in your home. You will receive advice for re-arranging furniture and accessories, selecting and hanging artwork, choosing the right colors, clutter clearing, re-purposing what you already have.

Here's what clients are saying about Carol's off-site Feng Shui consultations:
Thank you for the advice you provided during our Room Rescue consultation. You are the instrument to help me achieve tranquility and peace of mind.

The floor plan analysis told me everything I need to know. I especially appreciate the Hotline Coaching Package so I can continue to check in with you and ask questions as I move things around and before I make purchases. Loved your suggestion for art in my bedroom.

To schedule your on-site or remote Feng Shui consultation, e-mail Carol Olmstead or call 1.800.652.9038. I welcome your referrals.

From the Feng Shui Store
In the Feng Shui Art Gallery – The Feng Shui Menagerie Collection”
Artist Morgan C. Leshinsky created this original series of high quality giclée prints and note cards to use as Feng Shui cures for specific bagua areas in your home. Called The Feng Shui Menagerie Collection, these prints are modeled on the traditional Chinese zodiac, but with a fresh simplicity that is both contemporary and original.

The Rooster and the Pearl"
"The Rooster and the Pearl" is a powerful Feng Shui Office Cure to cut down on gossip, back stabbing, and office politics.

"Nine Goldfish"
The image of nine fish - eight gold and one black - is a classic Feng Shui symbol for attracting wealth because it represents growth and movement. The single black fish represents protection for your health and career, as well as increased earnings. In an office or business, this image also represents healthy competition in business.

Click here to see all of the art cures offered in the Feng Shui Store.

Purse Hangers
Where do you put your purse? There is a Feng Shui saying that "your purse on the floor means money out the door." You carry your money, credit cards, and checkbook in your purse, and in Feng Shui, putting these on the floor represents disregard for your wealth and income. Plus, scientific studies also show that your purse can be contaminated with numerous bacteria when it comes in contact with the floor. The Feng Shui remedy is a Purse Hanger that lets you hang your purse safely from a table or desk. I have found folding purse hangers that fit neatly in your purse. It's the perfect gift for all the women on your list. The 2" disk opens to a sturdy 3" hanger. I stock them in elegant black and silver, plus I have a few available in assorted colors.
Click here to order a purse hanger for yourself and for your friends at the Feng Shui Store at

Beyond Feng Shui – How to Keep Flowers Fresh
Dried flowers symbolize dead energy in Feng Shui so we recommend replacing them with fresh, seasonal flowers. This negative energy is even worse when you keep around that bouquet of flowers that was once wilted but is now dried up and faded. Here's a system for keeping flowers fresh, whether it's that special Valentine's Day bouquet or for anytime you receive or treat yourself to flowers:

Add flower food to a vase and fill with water. The flower food packet bundled with most bouquets does work. Empty it into a vase, and then add enough water to fill the vase three-quarters of the way.

Trim the stems at an angle. Use a sharp scissors or garden shears to cut the ends of the flowers at a 45-degree angle to allow more water to be absorbed.

Remove foliage from the lower part of the stem. Pick off any foliage that will fall below the waterline, because this is prime breeding ground for bacteria in the water shortens your flowers' life span.

Keep the flower vase out of direct sunlight and away from heat sources. Excessive heat and light cause the water to evaporate more quickly and your flowers to wilt.

Feed and maintain flowers on a regular basis. Every few days, change the water, trim the stems, and add a little flower food. A good substitute flower food is a solution of 1 quart warm water, the juice of half a lemon, 1 teaspoon sugar, and a few drops of bleach.

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Schedule a Consultation or Workshop. If you would like to set up a home, office, or business consultation, or schedule a customized workshop, contact:
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Carol M. Olmstead, FSIA, was certified by the Feng Shui Institute of America, and awarded Red Ribbon Professional Status from the International Feng Shui Guild (IFSG) and was elected to the IFSG Governing Board.

Feng Shui For Real Life, LLC, and the Feng Shui For Real Life Ezine serve as a reference and guide for the principles of Feng Shui and as such bear no responsibility for results a client or reader experiences. Individual results may vary based on the client's participation and intent.

©2014, Carol M. Olmstead

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