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Sat Apr 16 2016 |
I experienced two deaths within days of each other this month, first my beloved Aunt Lily and then my dear friend's mom, Sylvia. Both women were family matriarchs, and despite being in their 90s, their deaths are difficult for family and friends. As I sat in the house my aunt had lived in for more than 60 years, I realized that I would never return, never see her unique wallpaper, or sit on the carefully-selected furniture, or admire the art objects she had collected on exciting trips around the world - several of which I shared with her.
A house is more than the sum total of the objects we put in it, but I couldn't stop thinking about how I would miss these familiar objects and how complicated it would be for the family to deal with them.
Years ago I had to close up my father's apartment and deal with my parents' furniture and the objects they had collected for almost 75 years together. I donated as much as I could and had the rest shipped to a storage unit near my home in another state. Every few days I would go to the unit and bring home a box or two to unpack. I had expected that I would be adding to my collection with my mom's porcelain, silver, and art, because these were all a vivid part of my childhood. But, I found little in each box that I wanted to keep - each item had my mother's touch and related to my parent's life but didn't fit with my own decor or style. Things that seemed perfect to me as a child in reality had chips and cracks. I decided to keep a few representative items, like my mom's needlepoint piano bench, the few cups and saucers from her large collection that I had given to her as birthday gifts, two 1950s silk scarves from my parents' trip to Paris, the demitasse spoons engraved with the name of a famous hotel (your secret is safe with me, Mom). I selected a few of the doilies she had crocheted commuting on the train to see my father when he was in Army basic training during World War II. I cut the fabric flower off the dress she wore to my wedding. I donated the rest. In less than three months I could give up the storage unit because it was empty.
Feng Shui was developed in China to help locate family graves in the most auspicious location. The basic rule was "water in front of the grave, mountain behind, and luxuriant plants around," which was supposed to protect the offspring and bring them peace, health, fortune, good luck, and other positive qualities. My aunt joins my parents, uncle, and grandparents in the family plot in a location that comes pretty close to this Feng Shui rule. I'm honored that this location conveys protection and good fortune to the living members of our family.
Thu Mar 03 2016 |
Spring might not be here officially, but when it comes to clothes shopping, you couldn't find a “puffer” coat if your life depended on it. Everywhere I look, the stores are showing colorful spring clothes. From a Feng Shui perspective, the colors you wear affect your emotions and influence how others judge and respond to you. Each of the Five Elements
has specific characteristics, and when you wear the colors and shapes that represent that Element, you project these attributes. Elementally speaking, “you are what you wear.”
I wear the Fire Element
when I’m involved in communications. The colors are red, orange, and purple, the patterns are pointed designs and animal prints, the fabrics are satin and shiny textures, and the shapes are angular and form fitting. Red is the ideal color when you want to draw attention to yourself, so I wear it when I give a workshop.
I wear the Earth Element
to board meetings to feel stable and grounded. The colors are brown and yellow, the patterns are checks and plaids, the fabrics are tweed, flannel, textured, and the shapes are boxy. Yellow conveys stability so some people wear it when they have to make an important decision. I avoid yellow because it’s simply not my color. And that’s Feng Shui OK. No one should wear a color they don’t like.
I wear the Metal Element
to feel elegant. The colors are white, pastel, metallic, the patterns are round, dots, and scrolls, the fabrics are polished, glittery, and shiny, and the shapes are round. I love black polka dots on white fabric because that’s the perfect yin-yang balance. White can be a low-energy color, so I save it for more casual activities.
Full disclosure for the next Element: I’d be happy to wear only black, the color of the Water Element.
Think black and you get authority and strength. The other Water colors are navy and deep blue, the patterns are wavy, paisley, and abstract, the fabrics are sheer, and the shapes are flowing. Water Element clothes are great for artistic activities.
I wear the Wood Element
for fitness activities and when I want to feel active. The colors are green and blue, the patterns are vertical and stripes, the fabrics are cotton, linen, and ribbed fabrics, and the shapes are rectangular. Green represents growth so it's a great color to wear when I’m trying to learn a new skill or need a pop of energy. Green is a stimulating color so I don’t wear it when I need to feel grounded.
Check out some of my other blogs about Feng Shui colors
Mon Feb 08 2016 |
Chinese New Year 2016
begins on February 8, and "in with the old and out with the new," is the guiding principle In Chinese households to welcome the Lunar New Year. But you don't have to be Chinese - or even celebrate Chinese New Year - to practice some of this wise advice for cleaning and clearing in anticipation of any special day.
Here are a few of my favorite Feng Shui tips for clearing out old, stale chi to make room for new, fresher energy to find you:
1. Clear the Slate.
Reconcile with friends, family, and colleagues and settle any pre-existing disagreements.
2. Clean Thoroughly.
Dirt, dust, and trash represent negative chi, so give your home and office a thorough cleaning, and remove items that you no longer need or want. Remember to sweep toward the door rather than into the room.
3. Pay Debts.
Pay off any debts before the arrival of the New Year so you can start fresh with no payments hanging over your head.
4. Buy New Clothes.
It's customary to buy new clothes and shoes, preferably something in red, the auspicious Fire Element color that attracts positive chi.
5 Decorate with Flowers.
Decorate your home and office with fresh flowers and plants, especially narcissus, azalea, orchids, or lucky bamboo. You can read about choosing specific flowers for their symbolism in my blog "Feng Shui and the Language of Flowers"
On the eve of the holiday, offer thanks to higher beings and ancestors for past good fortunes, and ask for their blessings for the coming year. Then, on the actual day of the holiday, be sure to open your front door to actively welcome in positive energy.
About the Year of the Monkey 2016...
The two prominent Feng Shui Elements for the Year of the Monkey are Fire and Metal
. Read my blog "Swing into the Year of the Monkey"
for a look at what some Asian Feng Shui masters are predicting, and my article "Predictions for the Year of the Monkey," for a peek at what your Chinese Zodiac sign can anticipate.
But, please keep in mind: These are only predictions from Chinese masters, but ultimately you have control over your actions and power over the kind of year you will experience.
Sun Jan 17 2016 |
My annual blog about Chinese New Year
always starts with the same disclaimer, that these predictions come from Asian Feng Shui masters, not from me. The Year of the Monkey 2016
arrives on February 8, and the two prominent Elements are Fire
. At the risk of planting self-fulfilling ideas in your head, here’s what my research
shows some prognosticators are telling us the new lunar year will bring.
First, there’s a high probability of a war of words between people, politicians running for office, and internationally between countries.
OK, all you need to do is read a newspaper or turn on the TV or go online to confirm that one. Because the Fire Element is connected to words, much political infighting is expected. Some world leaders will act even more provocatively than usual, but this will be “…more amusing than dangerous.” International conflicts are likely, but the good news is that “…disputes will be settled rather easily and most conflicts will be short-lived.” We can only hope.This is likely to be an expensive year, because money is Metal, but Fire melts it
. People will spend much more than usual, especially for travel, trendy items, and clothes. Stock markets are likely to fluctuate, but overall global economic growth is expected by the end of the year. The industries that will perform best are those related to Fire and Water Elements, like energy, finance, entertainment, transportation, and communication. People will have more fun, and humor will be more appreciated.
The monkey is considered the “trickster” among the 12 animals of the Chinese Zodiac, so this let’s us let loose and enjoy more than we have in previous years. Let’s hear it for the return of humor, something we’ve all needed and missed. The monkey loves change, which means weather will change rapidly, and usually dry places will be wet and vice versa
. We’ve already seen this as the wet El Nino weather is replacing the dry La Nina of the past few years. Natural disasters will happen very suddenly and without much warning (don’t they always?), with “…dramatic storms, lightning sparked fires, and volcanoes erupting, but not be as many earthquakes.” Since monkeys learn by imitation, this is considered a good year for education, arts, and culture
. People will watch more movies and television and will want to travel more, especially to fun destinations. Many people will have a stronger spirit and more energy due to the increase in the Fire Energy.
People will want to talk more, laugh more, and feel more playful. But, the Fire energy will also make people "…feel more scattered and disorganized,” which will lead to more anxiety and frustration. It’s going to be a good year for love and romance.
That one can stand on it’s own without need for explanation.Spirituality and religious fervor will increase and people will feel more open-minded and more tolerant of differences.
This means there will be an increase in friendliness and getting together. Who can complain about that?What does the Year of the Monkey hold for your Chinese animal sign? Click here
to read the summary of predictions in the articles on my website.
Sun Jan 10 2016 |
The tip in my January Feng Shui To The Rescue newsletter
to “move 27 things”
to make room for good things to find you in 2016 hit the right note, because I’ve been receiving the most heartfelt messages from people who took this advice and achieved quick results. This is my standard New Year’s Day tip, and every year I include the reminder that you don’t have to go overboard and only need to move 27 things.
Why 27 things?
The number three is considered auspicious in Feng Shui - there are three sides to a triangle, the powerful symbol representing the Fire Element that helps activate passion, emotion, and wealth - so 27 is a powerful permutation of threes. But in truth as long as you move something, anything, you will see results.
Now here’s my confession: I moved a lot more than 27 things. In fact, my big home office purge ended up including two closets, two bookshelves, and three file cabinets.
I started on New Year’s Day with the closet in the “Helpful People” area of my office. That’s where the smaller file cabinet is located and where I keep all those paper supplies that so easily become one big mess. I worked for hours, then did a quick tidy of the bookcase in the “Relationship” area for good measure, then called it quits. At least for the day.
Saturday, I tackled closet #2 in the “Harmony” area of the room. That one has copies of my book
, materials and props for my workshops, travel paraphernalia, and crafting supplies including my collection of colored Sharpies (more about that in another blog). That one went quickly so I added a straightening job on the bigger bookshelf in the “Community” area. The trash bags were piling up.
On Sunday, I had no choice but to deal with the big deal, AKA the vertical file in the “Wealth” area where I keep all of my client folders - 18 years of them.
Ever since I launched my practice, I have “opened” a red file folder for each client. In the back of the folder I staple a sheet with contact information, advice they give about the quirks of finding their house, and similar pertinent info. Every client gets written notes during our session, and a copy goes in the file along with a floor plan.
Long ago I began recording all of this information electronically, but I still create folders because I love the tactile sense and the good luck message of the red color. Over the years I’ve purged files, especially removing files of clients who moved, since I don’t need the old floor plan and directions, but despite this the cabinet was stuffed to the point of explosion. I had current and continuing client files that simply wouldn’t fit inside.
And so began the big red purge. I pulled every file, read its contents, wished the client well on his or her journey to achieve wealth, harmony, and love. Then out went the file if it was older than two years.
To my precious clients, please understand that this was not an easy purge for me. I am not deserting you because you’re recorded electronically. Except for a catastrophic iCloud failure, I’ll always have your information - and your back. I wished each of you well with a special message for your special situation.
The result for me on Monday was the predictable increase in calls from potential clients who were rushing to fill the space I had opened up to fit their own new red folders. I don’t mean to sound smug about this, because all clients old and new are equally important to me, but when you make Feng Shui changes you create room for new things to find you – and they always do.
How about you? Did you move your 27 things yet, and if you did, what new energy did it bring to you? Email your success story so I can profile you in a future newsletter.
Thu Dec 31 2015 |
I like to start off each year by writing about my reaction to the Pantone's Color of the Year
forecast. Last year I was wild about Marsala,
and a few years before I was uncharacteristically charmed by Tangerine Tango, even though I'm not usually a fan of the color orange. I think it was that name.
Each year Pantone, the self-described color authority, forecasts the most popular colors that we'll see in decor, fashion, and graphic design. The announcement has a cult-like following among designers and retailers looking to improve sales, and among Feng Shui practitioners like me who want to know if they can use the color to enhance clients' homes and offices.
I guess I shouldn't have been so surprised when Pantone decided to break ranks this year and pick not one but two colors on which to bestow their annual honor - Rose Quartz #13-1520 and Serenity #15-3919. After all, wasn't this the year when the Oxford Dictionaries Word of the Year
wasn't even a word, but an emoji? Seems everyone is going out on a limb this year.
So what do I think of the Rose Quartz/Serenity duo? Frankly, from a Feng Shui perspective, not much. These colors are much too pale, cool, translucent, wishy-washy - how should I say it - well, wimpy, for how we need to balance ourselves considering the world we're facing these days. Both pastel colors represent the Metal Element that's associated with hardness. Personally and professionally, I'm recommending we go with a Water Element color that has more to do with flow and forward movement.
In all fairness to Pantone, blue is considered to be one of the lucky colors for the upcoming Year of the Monkey (white and gold are the other two), but we're talking about real blues here, with names like cobalt and indigo and lapis. One look at azure and denim and you know the world is going to be all right. Is there anything that says "don't mess with me" more than denim?
Now, my less-than-favorable reaction to the color-of-the-year combo may have a little something to do with the fact that light pink and light blue was the color scheme for my wedding - my first wedding, that is. But clearly that's a topic for another blog post.
So, I'm planning to sit back and watch to see if this "gender blurring" duo (Pantone's words, not mine) does take over the fashion and interior design world by storm (hah, as if either one could). In the meantime I'm surrounding my self and my clients with true Water Element blues in 2016. After all, you can never go wrong with basic navy.
Tue May 19 2015 |
It’s spring wedding season, and that means clients start contacting me to help with the challenge of combining households and dealing with all that extra stuff. When a couple moves in together and combines furniture, art, and decoration, they often end up with more than they need, and it gets really complicated when one partner doesn’t even like the other partner’s tchotchkes.
My client Lena wrote with the good news that she was engaged to Daniel, the man of her dreams, but that moving in with him was a challenge. Fortunately, Feng Shui principles can help the couple decide what to keep and what to toss.
First, we started with the master bedroom, which is the most challenging, and also the most important, room for any couple. Lena didn’t know if she should move her furniture or use Daniel’s. I told Lena that the first decision was to make sure both she and Daniel liked all of the bedroom furniture. If any piece didn’t fit in with the others, or if one of them truly disliked it, it was a better Feng Shui choice to replace it all.
Lena thought the photo of Daniel’s deceased grandfather that he kept on his dresser was “creepy” (her words), but didn’t know how to ask Daniel to move it. I explained that the only photos in a master bedroom should be of the couple - no children, parents, grandparents. Photos of deceased relatives could be displayed in the Family Area or Helpful People Area, and moving the grandfather’s picture to a more public area would better honoring his memory. I recommended she use this as an opportunity to take an engagement photo for their bedroom.
Daniel kept a teddy bear on his bed that he long ago received as a birthday present from his now-grown daughter. Lena already knew that the bear had to go, especially since Daniel’s relationship with his daughter was currently strained. I suggested packing away the bear and instead displaying a current photo of the daughter in their family room near a picture of Lena and Daniel to symbolize a healthy relationship among the three of them.
Lena didn’t like the two black ceramic cats that Daniel bought on a business trip to China before he met Lena. While Feng Shui principles do suggest keeping things in pairs in the bedroom, if Lena doesn’t like the cats they shouldn’t be in the bedroom. We decided that Daniel could relocate the statues to his home office as a reminder of his profitable business travels. Lena and Daniel are planning to look for a pair of objects to display in their bedroom when they go on vacation next month.
If you’re getting married this spring, or like Lena and Daniel you’re moving in together, have you thought about the things you’re willing to give up? And if you’ve been together for a while, do you secretly despise some of your partner’s “stuff?” The new energy of spring might be the perfect time for a Feng Shui face-off.