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Thu Mar 26 2015 |
The question of whether to repair or to remove an object comes up often in my consultations: "If I break something and then fix it, is it still good Feng Shui?"
a client will ask. My answer is usually another question: "If you fix the object, will you see a treasure that's been restored or something that's flawed?"
If it's the former, keep it and display it with pride, but if you only see what's wrong with an object, it's time to let it go.
Taking the time and money to restore a ripped vintage shawl is positive Feng Shui, but keeping those broken clay pots in the back of your house (and you thought I didn't notice them, didn't you?) is negative. If you an possessions that you love that have aged (shall we say "gracefully") and you make the repairs, well that's very good Feng Shui.
When I conduct a Feng Shui analysis of a home or office, the first thing I do is look for the three major conditions of negative chi that are especially detrimental:
1. Things You Don't Like
2. Things That Are Broken
3. Things That Are Cluttered
Once I identify these negative conditions, I recommend ways to correct them following my Rule of 3Rs
: Replace, Repair, or Remove all items creating negative chi as soon as possible.
Here's where the Japanese practice of wabi-sabi
works in coordination with Feng Shui rather than at cross-purposes.
Wabi-sabi is the ancient art of appreciating the simplicity and serenity in things that are imperfect, impermanent, and incomplete. Wabi-sabi has incorrectly been called the new Feng Shui. Instead, while Feng Shui is a design system for helping you attract wealth, harmony, and love, and a whole lot more, wabi-sabi is primarily a design philosophy that asks you to set aside the need for perfection and instead focus on things as they truly are. It's a meditation on the beauty and simplicity of natural objects and how they change with time. Sounds like good Feng Shui to me.
Wabi-sabi is the blending of the Japanese word wabi, which means humble, and sabi, which suggests beauty over the natural course of time. For example, you can see wabi-sabi in the weathered metal gate from an antique store you include in your garden design. In my own case, I have mixed Feng Shui design and wabi-sabi in the three wooden door surrounds that came from the front door of a 100-year-old Vermont farmhouse that I repurposed as a wall decoration.
Take a look at the pottery in the photo I chose for this article, which shows the art of kintsukori, or restoring things with gold. I think it says it all about whether a repair can be good Feng Shui.
Sun Mar 08 2015 |
I resisted for a while, but now I'm posting my thoughts about DressGate
- also known as #TheDress
- the social media phenomenon that asks you to decide whether a possible mother-of-the-bride dress is blue and black or white and gold. First, for the record, the dress is clearly light blue and brown, but that wasn't one of the options so I've kept out of the debate.
No matter what color that darn dress really is, in Feng Shui we know that the colors you wear can be as influential as the colors you place in your surroundings. The Feng Shui discussion of color revolves around what we call The Five Elements
, and Wood
. Each has its own characteristic colors, so when you wear the color of a specific Element, you activate its corresponding energy. That means it does matter whether you wear a blue dress with black trim - the Water Element that represents movement and flow, or a white dress with gold trim - the Metal Element that represents strength and focus.
I did a little searching and found these cool facts about color and behavior.
A French study reported that female on-line daters received twice as many emails from potential dates when they wore red in their photos. "Red reminds people of how their face looks when they blush in the presence of someone they're interested in," says Adam Alter, author of Drunk Tank Pink
Blue may reduce criminal behavior.
After officials near Kyoto, Japan, installed blue streetlights in dangerous neighborhoods, the crime rate fell by 9%. "The lights mimic those atop police cars and seem to imply that the police are watching," said Alter.
Strawberries are packed in green baskets to appear juicy.
These complementary colors make even imperfect berries appear more vibrant, says Leatrice Eiseman, the Executive Director of the Pantone Color Institute, the group that picks the color of the year
Red and yellow are go-to choices for fast food chains.
McDonald's and Burger King use bright, warm colors that "leap" forward, beckoning you to the drive-through, says Eiseman, instead of cool colors that recede. These hues also stimulate the appetite because there are so many foods in those colors.
So for the record, what colors do I see for #TheDress?
Actually, the colors don't matter because of those stripes. Horizontal stripes for the bride's mom? You gotta be kidding!
Thu Mar 05 2015 |
The twin treats of spring are almost upon us, Passover and Easter, which are holidays that everyone loves. But, what is it about family holidays that brings out the stress along with the anticipation of reconnecting with loved ones? And is there a way to apply a little Feng Shui magic to improve communications around the table this year? Why is this Passover going to be different from all other Passovers?
(Sorry, I couldn't resist.)
So, in support of family harmony no matter which spring rituals you celebrate, here are a few Feng Shui thoughts:
Avoid seating a husband directly across from a wife, or partners across from each other, which is known as confrontational seating. Instead, seat the guest of honor across from one spouse and seat the other spouse in the middle, complementary position. The guest seated closest to the door usually leaves first, so if you have a relative you wish you didn't have to invite... well, you get my drift.
Give the house a thorough cleaning to help remove any negative energy from a long winter, especially if you have been stuck in the house because of weather or illness. Cleaning is a traditional part of Passover, where Jews search the house for traces of bread and foods that can't be eaten during the holiday, called "chametz." The Feng Shui parallel is to clean your home before a holiday, searching for dust, removing old dried flowers, replacing air filters, washing windows, and making other seasonal adjustments.
Choose a color scheme for your table that includes blue for harmony and new beginnings, white for clarity, and gold for power. Arrange fresh flowers to symbolize growth and rebirth, and place them in front of a mirror to symbolically double their positive energy. Just be sure the mirror isn't located across from a window or the positive chi will be directed right out of the room.
It's a spring holiday tradition to buy new clothes (my husband thinks I invented that one), but be sure to avoid wearing red at your family holiday meal. Red is the Fire Element, and adding more heat and fire could lead to family disputes.
If you dye Easter eggs, display them in your Creativity Area, because this area is activated by round shapes and white colors. Display the palms from Palm Sunday in the Family Area, which is activated by the Wood Element and the color green.
Place the Seder plate in the center of the table and arrange the traditional items on the plate according to the Feng Shui bagua - the egg is on the far left of the plate, the shankbone is on the top right, the bitter herbs in the middle, the vegetable in the lower left, and the charoset in the lower right.
Happy Spring, Everyone!
Tue Feb 24 2015 |
Two birds have already bounced off my office windows this morning - one hit the window across from my desk and the other dive-bombed into the window on my left - and it's not even 9am. Yesterday, a bird bounced off the other window across from my desk. Fortunately, they all seemed to have survived. But it seems to be the season for bombardier birds, because last weekend I got a frantic email from a friend who lives about 5 miles from me saying that 14 robins had bounced off the glassed-in room at the front of her house. Sadly, these fellows were not so fortunate as mine.
In Feng Shui, birds are considered powerful symbols of new opportunities that are there for you, even in times of adversity. So, I figured it was time to consult my colleagues at the International Feng Shui Guild (IFSG)
about this one.
"Any Feng Shui significance with birds flying into windows?" I posted on the Guild's special private Facebook page.
"Sadly, this is likely a very mundane problem," wrote Mia Staysko
, Chair of the IFSG Board. "Usually, at two times of the year windows in buildings reflect in such a way as to make it appear that they are not there. The poor birds simply cannot see them."
I appreciated Mia's explanation, and in fact the lighting was strange the morning my friend had her bird bombardment - the sun was gleaming off the mountains that were covered with new snow. Within seconds the sun got brighter and fog rolled in and created this eerie light so we couldn't see anything, and that could have easily spooked the birds.
But of course, since the IFSG welcomes all approaches to Feng Shui I wasn't surprised to read a different take on the issue. "The robin is the symbol of spring and of new growth," wrote another colleague, and whenever birds hit windows like that it's the universe trying to get the attention of the people in the home." Another colleague suggested that the message from the birds was to ask where you're resisting growth in your life or in the affected bagua area. And another added that death of a bird or any animal is about transformation for the observer. "It seems like the people in the bird-bombed house are resisting moving forward in some area of their life."
OK, now I'm listening.
And leave it to the always-grounded Mia to come back with another take on my bouncing birds. "I don't mean to rain on the metaphysical parade with this explanation," she added, "but sometimes there is meaning in things and sometimes birds just hit windows. And if it was a big flock who tend to stick together, if one goes down, they all follow."
Last summer a hummingbird flew into our garage. It perched on the bright red and blue cross-country skis hanging on the wall (I never knew hummingbirds could stop flapping their wings long enough to perch but it did), and then after a minute it flew up into the skylight. When it couldn't get outside that way it flew back to the skis. The poor little thing did this four times as we gently tried to use a broom to aim it toward the open door. Finally, it got the message, flew out the door, and then went straight up like a rocket until it disappeared into the stratosphere.
So, okay, maybe I'm the one with the bird issue after all. My Feng Shui colleagues advise putting decals on the windows. My granddaughter Izzy says I should put out a warning sign for the birds. Maybe it's time for my friend and I to sit down with a bottle of Grey Goose to toast our bouncing birds and try to figure out just what transformation we're resisting.
Sun Feb 08 2015 |
Tell me they didn't really do this: Australia-based Jetstar Airways teamed with a Feng Shui Master to launch a Valentine's campaign called "Love is in the Zodiac Pair" that supposedly uses Feng Shui to match compatible single flyers, then chooses the best seats, destinations, and activities to make them fall in love. For example, single flyers born in the Year of Horse are matched with flyers born in the Year of the Goat, and these couples should sit in row nine, 19 or 29 and travel to Jakarta.
Wait, it gets worse.
In the first seven hours after the campaign's launch, the site had already received more than 5,000 applications.
OK, shoot me now.
It ticks me off when anyone trivializes Feng Shui because I've seen it work for so many people, and it's an especially cheap shot for Jetstar to invoke love and Valentine's Day
. This holiday already makes a whole lot of people feel insecure with its focus on idolized versions of love and the perfect way to spend the day.
Yes, I've been as guilty as every other Feng Shui practitioner who writes about Valentine's Day. Right now the Articles Section
of my web site includes 27 Feng Shui Tips to Rev Up Your Romance
, Feng Shui Tips to Attract Love
, and Romantic Dining Ideas
. That last one even got me a mention in the Washington Post
a few years ago. Mea culpa!
Does there really need to be so much pressure on one day of the year? My husband and I stopped going out on Valentine's Day years ago because we got tired of the "assembly line" way restaurants handled the crush of diners. We discovered that if we go out the very next evening or a few nights later, the prices are back to normal and we don't have to settle for their prix fixe menus. Lovely.
So, this year I'm offering some different tips for Valentine's Day instead of my usual "rev up your love life" post.
First, let's talk about how to be alone on V-day. In her great newsletter, Relationship Specialist Kelly Chisholm
shares sage advice for spending Valentine's Day alone in the article "How to Cope With Being Alone on Valentine's Day."
The tips range from getting together with single friends or special relatives and expanding your notion of what type of love this day is meant to celebrate. The message is that a Valentine can be anyone who's special to you, including you - and that's where the Feng Shui comes in.
The upper right area of your home is usually referred to as the Love/Relationship Area
of the Feng Shui bagua
, but it's also related to self-esteem and self-love. So here's my different kind of Feng Shui love tip: Plan to do some clearing and rearranging in that area on Valentine's Day and you just might reap rewards beyond a box of chocolates and a red rose.
Thu Feb 05 2015 |
I get a lot of questions after my monthly
ezine goes out, and this month I answered one about which door to use when orienting the Feng Shui bagua, the front door or the door from the garage to the house. The simple answer is the "front door," because it's the way your home was designed to be entered, but deciding which is Door #1 for you is far more complex.
"Thank you so much for your book and informative newsletter, I'm a fan," Sheryl wrote. "My question is, which door is the primary, the front door we never use, or the garage/laundry door we use all the time?"
Ah, there's the phrase that got me thinking: we never use the front door.
Many of us hardly ever open our front door because we pull right into the garage. In Feng Shui, the front door is called the "mouth of chi" because that's where all the positive energy and wealth enters your home. So if you don't open the front door, symbolically you don't open yourself up to the possibilities to attract wealth. So I suggested to Sheryl that she try using the front door more often, even if she only opens the door each morning to greet the day.
That still doesn't solve the problem of entering your house through the laundry room, mudroom, or cluttered hallway each and every time you come home. Not the most relaxing site to come home to, is it?
Some of the decorations near my garage door.
"If you come in through the garage like I do," I advised Sheryl, "make sure that entrance is as pleasing as your front entrance. Paint the door between the garage and house the same as your front door, use the same door mat, and if you decorate your front door for holidays do the same with your entry door." I reminded her that in Feng Shui thinking, an attached garage is considered one of the rooms in your house so you need to decorate it with the same care as you do with the rest of your home.
I often suggest that people decorate the area around the door from the garage to the house with bright, cheerful art that welcomes you home. Or, hang a bulletin board or white board near the door where you can post a joke of the week, family photos from the past weekend, or upbeat messages to each other. You work hard all day and coming home should make you smile.
What do you see when you pull into your garage - a can of dried up paint and an old set of tires, or something attractive? Email me and let me know.
Mon Jan 26 2015 |
The vicious fire that destroyed a New Jersey apartment complex caused quite a lot of comment among my colleagues in the International Feng Shui Guild
. Of course we're all relieved there were no injuries, but it was the location of the fire and the fact that this was the second fire on the same location that had everyone buzzing. Seems there used to be a cemetery
on the site, which means constructing a building there was a Feng Shui no-no.
One colleague who lived down the street from the site in the 90's remembers an open courtyard with a cemetery, and to make matters worse, an industrial plant that produced toxic chemicals.
In Feng Shui as in real estate, it's all about location, location, location. And the location of this particular complex resonated with me because there are several current cemeteries nearby, plus unidentified ancient Native American burial sites. I find cemeteries to be peaceful locations, and my husband and I have had fun "family-history" trips traipsing through rural cemeteries to find his ancestors' graves. But would I recommend building on top of one? No Feng Shui way!
In Chinese Feng Shui, a cemetery is thought to have the strong yin chi of death that draws positive chi away from the surrounding homes. That means living near a cemetery could deplete your personal energy over time. Plus, ancestors play an important role in Feng Shui so you want to honor the predecessor chi
of their gravesites, not build on top of them.
Predecessor chi is the term for the residual energy in land, structures, and objects. You know how sometimes you go into a building or house and you just can't wait until you can get out of there because something doesn't feel right? Or, you're attracted to one antique but repelled by another? That's all predecessor chi. Predecessor chi isn't always negative. I have clients in different parts of the country who say they have ghosts in their houses and like this predecessor chi just fine. But, I'm working with more clients lately who need the energy of the former occupants honored and cleared out before they bring their own positive energy into a space.
A chemical plant creates toxic predecessor chi, and no matter how skillfully the site is environmentally remediated, sometimes it also needs Feng Shui. I'm working with a commercial client who's building on the remediated site of a former chemical plant. The project is experiencing unexpected snafus and delays, and I can't help but think that the site's predecessor chi is still too strong.
The official cause of the New Jersey fire was a blowtorch used in a plumbing repair, and of course there's no way to ever prove whether the fire had anything to do with a burial site below or the predecessor chi above. But it sure makes me think that some open space needs to be left as that - open space.